How to be a Saint, and Not a Narcissist

Think of others as better than yourself.
Outdo one another in giving.
Be of one mind and one Spirit.
Why not rather be wronged? Turn the other cheek and take a strike for your friend.
Stop being so defensive, the fool is enraged by reproof, but reprove a wise man and he becomes wiser still. Find God in the soul's discipline.
Be content with God alone.
Pray that men judge correctly for their sake and not your own.
Think about the needs of others more than yourself. Pray for your enemies with genuine concern.
Stop trying to control other people. Receive the other as you would Christ. Be gracious to those who make demands upon your time and energy.
Stop manipulating relationships to get the things and feel the feelings you want. Give of yourself without counting the cost or estimating the reward.
Learn how you are being perceived, so that your presence may be a gift.
Stop trying to be right. To be right for the sake of being right is to miss the truth. There is no such thing as winning a quarrel, if the other person loses, so do you. To be ‘right’ is to come together with the other in the truth. This requires hard work. Will you have succeeded if you get to heaven all alone?
Be your brother’s keeper, care for one another as God cares for you. In deed and thought alike give charitably.
Stop judging other people. You do this because you think too highly of yourself. The arrogant person turns a perspective difference into moral conflict out of laziness in understanding the other. Never assume to have exhausted another person’s mysteries, or to know every angle of a situation.
Don’t take relationships for granted. Each person is a tabernacle of God. Reverence each other as such.
Don’t call someone a friend who you are not willing to suffer for. People are not your commodities.
Don’t suffer at the expense of others, rather, suffer for their sake. Be merciful to those who hurt you because they may be hurting even more.
Friendships require sacrifice, work, and commitment. Emotional reciprocity is a delicate balance, easily tipped; pay attention to keep the scale even, lest the relationship should die from neglect.
Without regular communication there is no relationship. Without trust there will be no love.
Take responsibility for your own emotions. Stop blaming people, or circumstances, or genetics for the way you feel. The choice that you make in response to your feelings is yours alone.
You are free to love the other even when you feel you are being wronged. Choose love and God will settle your pain. Choose anger and the devil will stoke it with lie upon lie.
Let your own faults be the focus of your concern. Remove the log from your own eye before pointing out the splinter in your brothers’.
Humble yourself before others and they will forgive you a thousand offenses.
Presume what you are owed and you will not receive it. Expectations from life are the source of hurt, there is only one God and He is all you need.
Be grateful that the other gave what they could and your patience will attain what was lacking.
Connection with a loved one must outpace the division that time creates.
Prayer and honest conversation destroy myriad misunderstandings.
Honor your words even when your feelings change. This is training in love, for love is a choice and not a mood. If you fight for it, emotion will eventually obey the choice. If you are not faithful in the small choices, you will not be faithful in the large ones.
If you must change a plan made, do so only for grave reasons and with thorough explanation to those affected.
Be yourself at the risk of offending and you will learn the new self you want to be. Hide yourself and you will never be free. You can only love others in a proportion to your receptiveness to God's Love. Deep roots in God are what make vulnerability with others sincere and relational giving authentic.
Pray constantly to do God’s Will and you will find yourself doing It by accident.
Be eager in seeking reconciliation with a friend.
Apologize for misperceptions and let your true intent be known.
Humility gives strength to every virtue.
​Your work will be finished when you die.
Pray without ceasing. Take your whole mind captive to the obedience of Christ!